Here on our blog we’re shining a light on Mums from all walks of life. In this article we talk to Adrienne. Mum to Charleigh, she’s a digitial creator based in Boston. Read on to see what she has to say on all things parenting…
What does Parenting mean to you?
Parenting to me means being there unconditionally for my daughter, Charleigh. No matter what happens or who she decides to be, I will always be there for her. No tantrum, no rebellious phase, no life decision will ever be big enough to keep me from loving her.
How did your life change after having your first child?
It would be easier for me to list how my life did NOT change because that would be a much shorter list. Having Charleigh (my first and only child right now) changed everything. One day you’re worried about when you are going out with your friends and the next second you are having a panic attack over a rash on your newborns booty. I mean the differences in my life now are HUGE. Your priorities change over night.
In your opinion, what’s the most rewarding aspect of parenting?
I absolutely love that I am the person who my daughter NEEDS. She needs me to comfort her when she bumps her head, she needed me when she was hungry for milk, and I hope she continues to need me in different ways throughout her life. That aspect of parenting is wildly rewarding for me. Also that I’m the only one who makes her laugh uncontrollably, that one never gets old.
How is Parenting today comparing to the way you have been raised by your parents ?
Parenting today feels much more on display. Today, everything is done in the public eye (because of social media). I feel like there’s much more pressure on doing things a certain way. When I was growing up I don’t think my parents had that additional pressure.
What was the hardest moment in this journey, as a family, to overcome?
Balance has been a struggle as a family. Finding time for yourself, for your child, for your significant other, it’s TOUGH. On top of that my struggle with anxiety and how that manifests itself as a parent has been a definite struggle for us as a family. I at times go in to a panic if my husband mentions something that may be wrong with my daughter. It’s like he isn’t allowed to communicate about his parenting worries. We work on it and have found strategies to effectively communicate. Communication is key!
What annoys you the most about Parenting?
The strain it puts on your relationship with your husband. It really bothers me that I didn’t even think twice about this juggling act I am constantly doing. How had I not anticipated that parenting was going to be so hard? I lived in naïve land I guess!
Now is your chance to embarrass your kid – tell me an embarrassing story!
It’s less embarrassing for Charleigh more for me. One of the first times I ever went out with Charleigh by myself I decided to do my hair. We went to the doctor and I had to hurriedly feed her a bottle because we were going to a moms group directly after. Well about 5 seconds after her bottle I put her over my shoulder to burp her and wouldn’t you know, my newborn threw up all over my freshly done hair. That’ll teach me to practice self care!